Top 5 Mistakes Men Make When Meeting Women

A few weeks ago the PhillyIn Cast, along with friends, Margo Trovei and Jessica Scott all had a discussion about dating (See Justin’s posts There is No Such Thing as Good Dating Advice) and the ladies told me I need to help other men out. I responded “why should I help out my competition?” Well after seeing (and hearing from women) all the mistakes guys are making, and reading Justin’s post, I figured I may be able to help a few guys out.

1. Lack of Confidence

I was at Public House a few weeks ago with a group of friends for a joint birthday party. One guy mentioned how hot a girl was and I responded “did you make eye contact with her?” and he responded “yes” so I looked and could tell she was checking him out, so I said “why don’t you go talk to her” and responded “nah, maybe after a few beers”.

Women love a guy who is confident. Some guys lack the confidence to approach a woman, ask a woman to dance, ask for a woman’s phone number or set the location and time for a date on his own. (She wants you to take the initiative)

2. Not REALLY Listening To Her

I was at a Landmark Americana in West Chester one night and this guy I knew from college was talking to this girl for almost an hour. When he came back I asked him what’s up with that girl. He said she is really hot and she is so into me. I said cool man, is she from around here? He said “I don’t know”.

A major mistake guys make when talking to women is not REALLY listening to what she is saying. Try to be genuinely interested in what she has to say instead of just thinking of what you are going to say next. Try to remember things she says so you don’t look like an idiot asking about something she told you ten minutes ago.

3. Bragging Or Talking Too Much

I was at the MIXX night club a year ago and I remember walking by a guy who was talking to a female and I heard “…and I have a Porsche and a summer house…” and she was looking around the club like she could care less.

Bragging about yourself works well if you are after a golddigger, but if you want a classy woman try talking about what she is interested in. If she asks you about yourself, then tell her, but try not to ramble on.

4. Lying

When I was a teenager I used to work at a car dealership and one of my co-workers would take out the nicest car and drive around and tell girls it was his car, how he had some fancy job.

I never really understand why guys feel the need to lie about themselves. Women are quite exceptional at seeing though lies, if not right away, then after a few conversations. Lying to a female is like embezzling money, you may get away with it initially but eventually the FBI will find out and act like they don’t know until they have enough evidence on you and you will be done. It’s just not worth it, tell the truth or give her a funny response.

5. Not Asking For Her Phone Number

I was in Manasquan, NJ last year visiting a few friends and I was out at the Osprey and I was was my one buddy’s wing man as he talked to this girl for at least 15 minutes that night (who he later said was “smoking hot”) and I asked him if he got her number and he said “no… #$%!…I forgot”

I never understand why guys put in all time and effort to approach a woman, talk to her and they never ask for her phone number. What a waste. That’s like being in the superbowl on the goal line with 30 seconds left in the fourth quarter, after driving down the field, it’s 1st down, your down by 6, and you want to kick a field goal?

Ladies I would love to hear you comments to see if you agree or disagree…